Well, they do have a nice mask that they keep on to get you hooked. The games have begun. Any time that you try to get away, like gnawing off your foot from a trap or something they tighten the bolts. They tell you, "Oh you must be imagining things" I would NEVER NEVER do anything like that, I CARE ABOUT YOU. Till, they say those fateful words.... I LOVE YOU. OH MY GOD, now what do you do? They have gone and done IT!!!! They have hooked you in. Love is the commodity that WE are ALL supposed to want, need and use to show off to our friends and family as validation of our self worth and being. They have hooked us in and WHAT do we do. They haven't really done anything BAD yet so we go with the flow. It feels good, we are flying high on the endorphins being released. We are validated as a good person, our self worth has also shot up 10 notches. This person has done lots for us in a very SHORT amount of time. Could our intuition that is trying to tell us "Danger Will Robinson danger" be right? NAH. There is too much on the pro column right now. The so called "honeymoon period" has begun. All the fun that is going on. Your friends are jealous. Little do they know or suspect. They may be jealous NOW but they won't ever be AGAIN that is for sure. How much work they put into this alter ego of theirs. To hook you, should you feel flattered, in the beginning when the "small incidents" happen you do feel flattered so that you don't break down and cry and fall apart. You would start questioning your very existence and all of your values and morals. How could I not see how this person was, etc... Trust me, these are SICK SICK SICK people that look for prey. They want a particular type of person that fits a certain profile that fulfills their needs. Like pieces to a puzzle in a sense, so that they can then take the mask OFF.

Welcome to my lair my Pretties

I so miss stimulating conversation and I crave it. I feel sorry sometimes for the telemarketer that calls me, hehehe. Boy I bet they wish they had dialed one digit off. When you have to deal with a narcissistic, borderline personality disorder, rage-aholic, substance abuser, who HATES women. Oh, should I bother to continue with the list here? Card carrying Domestic Violence abuser and "Damn Proud of It" he says righteously. Is that one of the amendments I missed? I think it is depending upon where you live. Unfortunately, I happen to live in a "Good Ol' Boys Network". Where beatin' on your woman, or any woman for that matter is A-OK. The law will just write it up in such a way so they don't have to do any REAL WORK.

You can not have an intelligent conversation with a brick wall. Their mind is closed, they have no opinions, and they can't listen to yours. I have to wait till he goes to work and have all my intelligent conversations with my dog. I refer to her as my undomesticated partner. She does most all the things I would expect a real partner to do for me. LOLOL.

I consider myself to be of above average intelligence, hardworking, creative, common sense etc... and a good judge of character. It is a requirement for my job... or shall I say WAS(that shall come later) No one purposefully sets out to bring a Dr.Jekyll/Mr.Hyde into their lives. These creatures are truly sick individuals and they stalk their prey in a sense. Using whatever methods and means necessary to bring them into their lives. This is the WONDERFUL honeymoon phase, you see no signs of mean person. Just the opposite. You see only kindness and compassion. All the traits you thought ONE person could not possess.

As time goes by the mask starts to slip because of course, it is hard continuing with the facade every waking moment. They are beginning to tire of trying to impress you but they must make sure that they HAVE YOU FULLY IN THEIR CLUTCHES.

Once, you are HOOKED the mask will begin to slip here and there, but you are hooked. The indiscretions are usually at this point in time minor so they flip to the other side and you see the apologetic and sorrowful man. The one that CAN NOT LIVE WITHOUT YOU. WILL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU, TO KEEP YOU, ETC... Of course YOU think you are overreacting and go out of your way to make amends and make HIM feel better and promise YOU won't do anything WRONG again. Funny isn't it?

This is just my welcoming post to share MY knowledge and experience in the field of Domestic Violence. I hope that you will come along for the journey and learn and allow me to learn as well through my writings.

Hang on, as this is going to be a bumpy ride for mature readers.